Right for Right Now
Ever find yourself circling the same decision over and over, hoping clarity will magically show up? Whether it’s leaving a job, ending a relationship, moving cities, or helping a parent through a major life change — indecision can feel like a heavy fog.
Here’s the truth most of us don’t talk about:
Not deciding is still a decision.
And most of the time, it’s one made from fear — not love.
So what if you gave yourself permission to choose not the “perfect” path, but the one that’s right for right now?
Let’s walk through what that can look like:
1. Not Choosing Is a Choice
We often tell ourselves, “I’m just waiting for the right time.” But more often than not, we’re waiting because we’re afraid. Afraid to make the wrong move, afraid to deal with the fallout, afraid of change.
Avoiding the choice doesn’t press pause on life. It simply means life starts choosing for you. When you don’t step in, the situation evolves without your input — and sometimes in ways that hurt more than help.
Ask yourself: “If I keep doing nothing, where will I be in 3 months?”
2. What Would Love Choose?
Fear is loud. It overthinks, catastrophizes, and piles on pressure.
Love? It’s quieter — but way wiser.
Let’s say you’re debating whether to leave a job that’s burning you out.
Fear says: “What if you can’t find another one?”
Love says: “What’s this job costing your health and happiness?”
Or maybe you're trying to decide if it's time to move your aging parent into assisted living.
Fear says: “What if they feel abandoned?”
Love says: “How can we make sure they’re safe, supported, and surrounded by care?”
Fear asks: What if I get it wrong?
Love asks: What does this moment need?
When you pause and ask, “What would love choose right now?” you’ll often feel a little internal shift — a softening, a yes.
3. Name the Real Fear
Indecision often isn’t about the decision itself — it’s about what we think the decision will mean.
“If I leave this relationship, does that make me a failure?”
“If I move to a new city, what if I regret it?”
“If I step back from being my parent’s main caregiver, will people think I gave up?”
When we avoid naming the fear, it stays big and shapeless. But when we say it out loud or write it down, we get clarity.
Try journaling:
“If I choose _____, I’m afraid it means _____.”
“What I really don’t want to feel is _____.”
Naming the fear doesn’t make it disappear — but it puts you back in charge.
4. There’s No Perfect — Just Right for Right Now
Let go of the myth that there’s a perfect choice.
Let go of the pressure to plan ten steps ahead.
What if your only job is to ask:
“What feels most aligned for right now?”
That’s it. Right now. Not forever.
You can always adjust, pivot, and shift again. The next step doesn’t have to be permanent—it just needs to support you where you are.
And sometimes, choosing something gets things moving in ways that indecision never could.
5. Don’t Wait for a Crisis to Make the Call
We often avoid a decision until something forces our hand — burnout, a breakdown, a blow-up. But when you wait for that tipping point, you lose the gift of intention.
If you already know a change is needed, start moving toward it — even in small ways. Make the call. Set the boundary. Ask the question.
You don’t have to leap. You just have to begin.
6. You Can Grieve and Decide
This one’s especially important for those navigating transitions that involve relationships or caregiving.
You can be sad and ready.
You can feel grief and clarity.
You can miss what was and know it’s time for something new.
Feelings don’t have to be resolved for you to move forward. In fact, honoring them makes your decision more honest and human.
Let It Be Loving — Not Perfect
Big transitions can bring big emotion. But you don’t have to have it all figured out to begin. You just need to stay connected to what feels most true and compassionate in this moment.
When I work with clients navigating these in-between spaces — whether they’re caring for aging parents, stepping into a new version of themselves, or finally choosing change — we don’t chase perfection. We aim for clarity, alignment, and peace.
So if you’re sitting in the swirl of “I don’t know”…
Let’s start small.
Let’s start from love.
Let’s start now.
You’re more ready than you think.
If this resonates with you, let’s connect!
Much Love - Amy
